Spanking and Tears

Tears are a natural result of the Domestic Discipline process. Sometimes D. cries when he is being disciplined for misbehavior or a bad attitude. Other times he does not. I always strive to make the discipline session an effective one - but sometimes I look back and realize it could have been better. We do not use tears as a measuring stick on a spanking's effectiveness.

Many men who do not cry when they are spanked wish they were able to cry, or that they were made to cry. There are a number of reasons why tears may appear during a spanking:

1. Tears can be a natural response to pain. A spanking is primarily intended to be painful. Tears are often a normal reaction to physical pain. If a man cries during a spanking, no one should be alarmed because it is a natural and healthy response to the spanking. Some of D.'s tears are a result of the pain.
   
2. Tears can be a natural response to true understanding. Men can sometimes exhibit tears during a spanking because they suddenly understand why they are being disciplined. They experience a sudden rush of understanding about how much hurt their actions caused. Sometimes this understanding leads to a feeling of sorrow about the damage to the relationship. Some of D.'s tears are a result of understanding.
   
3. Tears can be a natural response to acceptace and submission. Tears can signal the end of pride, arrogance, and selfishness - all the negative emotions that separate him from you. It is a beautiful moment when his stubbornness, selfishness, and pride are melted away. It is a moment of profound personal growth and progress. It was difficult for me to get through D.'s "brick wall" at first, but he is learning to let go of his arrogance one "little step" at a time.
   
4. Tears can be a natural response to true repentance. When a man exhibits tears during or after a spanking, sometimes it is due to a sense of repentance - a feeling that he is genuinely sorry for having behaved the way he did. This is the ideal form of tears because of the emotion behind them. These tears show that a man is truly sorry for his actions, not just pissed off because he is being spanked. There are very few of D.'s tears that are truly repentant - but this is a result that I strive for every session.
   

If you would like to be asured that he understands your hurt, you will want to bring your man to tears. It may be difficult to bring some men to tears, but you will have a better chance if you start slowly and gradually build up the strength of the spanking over a long period of time.

Administering the punishment more slowly (while scolding him for his behavior) will allow you to give a longer and harder spanking where the pain levels increase over time. You should be scolding him throughout the spanking so that he knows how much hurt he has caused. Eventually, you will witness his emotional release.